Can someone really grow on you?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Relationship expert Gloria MacDonald discusses if someone can really grow on you.

    Gloria MacDonald

    Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

    Can someone really grow on you?

    People really can grow on you. We have just had so many situations where we have made an introduction in our dating service and either the man or the woman wasn t instantly attracted to the other person but the other person was. So, the one partner didn t have that zing. It just wasn t happening for them and maybe I have spoken to let s say, the woman didn t have the zing for the man in this case and spoken to the woman and I have talked to her into meeting the man. In fact, this happened with my very first couple that got married.

    I introduced them and the man liked her right away and she just really wasn t sure. There wasn t that instant sparking chemistry but I talked to her into going out with him a second time. Both people were incredibly nervous and anxious for that first meeting, so they weren t a 100% themselves. What happened was, when they went out a second time, she saw another side of him. She was more comfortable, he was more comfortable and she thought, Oh! This is a great guy. He is kind of interesting. So, they went out a third time and a fourth time and the zing grew and believe it or not, seven weeks after they first met, they got engaged. About nine months after they met, they got married and here they are two or three years later with two great kids and incredibly happy. So, don t believe for a second that zing can't grow. It can and in fact, that instant zing and sparking chemistry can fizzle just as quickly as it happened.