Nancy MitchellNancy R. Mitchell is an established protocol and etiquette consultant and advisor with more than 30 years of experience in the field. Currently, she is an adjunct faculty member at George Washington University, where she developed and teaches protocol courses to Event Management Certificate Program students in the School of Business and Public Management, and at Stratford University, Falls Church, VA. She serves also as protocol and special events consultant to the Library of Congress, the world’s largest library and cultural center. For 23 years, Mitchell was Director of Special Events and Public Programs at the Library of Congress where she and her staff were responsible for planning and managing over 400 events each year. She coordinated the institution’s major special events, visits of heads of state and other foreign dignitaries, fundraising galas, conferences and meetings. As the Library’s chief protocol advisor, she served as liaison to the White House, U.S Department of State, the Congress, the Supreme Court and other government agencies, foreign embassies, academia and corporations. Mitchell owns The Etiquette Advocate, Inc., a firm providing etiquette and protocol training to corporations, universities, embassies, government agencies, non-profit organizations and individuals. She is the etiquette consultant to Engaged! magazine, has been featured on Good Morning America, Fox 5 News, WTOP Radio and National Public Radio, and is quoted on matters of etiquette and protocol by the New York Times, Washington Business Journal, and the Washington Post. She is a co-owner of the firm, Protocol Partners-Washington Center for Protocol, Inc., and is a member of the Protocol and Diplomacy International Protocol Officers Association and the Women Business Owners of Montgomery Country (MD).
Host: What are gift guidelines for wedding showers?
Nancy Mitchell: General guidelines are to follow the lead of the host and to the hostess who is putting on the shower and take in to your account your relationship to the bride or if it's a couple shower to the couple.
I think it's very helpful when a host or hostess for a shower will have a seen sometimes it's a round the clock sometimes it's personal up parallel for the bride, sometimes it's a kitchen shower go with it whatever the theme is and spent within your means.
Also you did not want to be only person who attend the wedding shower and a presence a gift with a $150. Think often about in your whole process if gifts giving think about perceived value as well as the actual cost of the gift.
You want to be appropriate in its perceived value as well as in its price tag so, go with your guideline for the event, is it one of the steam shower and then go with your relation ship with the honoree.