Host: What are the most cited problem behaviors associated with this kind of imbalance?
Toni Coleman: The kinds of things that you frequently hear are comments like I am the one who always has to call you, you never seem to have time for me. I am the one who usually have to initiate things. I havent heard from you for a long period of time. There are also many complaints that come about when somebody makes plans for their friends and then cancels at the last minute because suddenly their significant other is available and this is a clear sense that, oh, okay now that he or she is available I havent got time for you. So I would say that those are probably the top ones and regardless of who your friends are, you are going to have those kinds of problems if you dont follow through or you dont really take at least a little bit of time to acknowledge them and to keep those relationships going.