What else can parents do to discourage whining?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Parenting expert Dr. Rene Hackney talks about what parents can do to discourage whining.

    Rene Hackney

    Originally a full-time preschool teacher, Dr. Rene Hackney now holds a Master?s in school psychology and a PhD. in developmental psychology from George Mason University. She trained at the Developmental Clinic at Children?s National Medical Center and for the public schools, teaching in parenting programs at each. She has also acted as a consultant to several area preschools.

    For the last four years, Dr. Hackney has owned and lectured for Parenting Playgroups, Inc, a parenting resource center and preschool classroom in Alexandria Virginia. She has offered workshops to a wide

    range of parent, teacher and social work groups during this time.

    Workshop topics include eight hours on positive discipline techniques, five hours on early academic issues and common issues such as sibling rivalry and potty training. All workshops provide well researched lecture, in-class practice and open discussion time. Additionally she hosts a monthly parenting focused book club and fun play programs to introduce the preschool setting to young families.

    Dr. Hackney is married and has two young children of her own.

    Host: What else can parents do to discourage whining?

    Rene Hackney: Discouraging whining is noticing and describing the nice voice. Every time they ask in a nice voice, you say what a pleasant way; you might even point it out another people, when somebody comes up and ask something you say. Listen to them, they had a nice voice. And it s teaching that child a bit about whining, and then whenever they are using a whining voice, being really consistent in having them fix the voice or in the few minutes delay. If you are inconsistent as a parent sometimes, you have them fix their voice and sometimes you don t. Sometimes you give a delay and sometimes you don t, children get a very mixed signal and the whining doesn t tend to lessen. So the idea is if you are going to address the whining with that having them fix their voice to do it very consistently, to do it every single time you hear the voice and that should lessen it pretty quickly.