Hi, I am Toni Coleman and I am a Psychotherapist and a dating and relationship coach and today, we are talking about great meeting, dating and relating tips and now, we are going to talk a little bit about bad boys and how to tell bad boys from good guys.
Host: What is a good definition of a "Bad Boy"?
Toni Coleman: The best way to describe a bad boy is through the traits that we see because there are many and varied and it depends on the bad boys. So, it is like one side doesn't fit all. It is really hard to give just a distinct definition. Bad boys are the kind of guys that make a date and don't show up or they show up really late. They are the kind of guys that take a woman out and then suddenly don't have their wallet and "Gee, I do not know what I am going to do and I can't pay.
" She has to pay for everything. They are the kind of guys that are usually unreliable perhaps, they are borrowing money from her, perhaps they are guys that she finds out from her friends when they were supposed to be home studying, they were really out with another woman at the club that they usually frequent. They are the kind of guys that just -- they are often telling you one thing but doing another, they are inconsistent, they are unreliable they are, they can be downright really bad and there are lots of stories like that of guys that are just, they take the woman and wine her and dine her and woo her and get almost up to the wedding day and he skipped town with $75,000 and that kind of thing. That's on the extreme end. Like I said, most bad boys fall into the unreliable, not there for her, maybe playing around kind of category.