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What is the fifth deadly dating sin for women?
Dating sin number five is the sin of being cheap. If the man does not pay for your coffee or pay for your drink, he is cheap, he is a loser, forget him. Again, this goes back to what our expectations are around that first meeting or date and what the man s expectations are.
Again, we are looking for, on a very subconscious level, because we feel like we can provide for ourselves that we do not need a man. We might want a man but we do not need a man to provide for us and protect us, but on a subconscious level whether or not he buys us that coffee or the drink is a clue to us that this man will be able to provide for us, but it is not necessarily the case. Just because a man may be does not think to buy you the coffee or drink, the first time you are meeting does not mean, A he cannot afford to and B that he would not when he has really decided that he wants to ask you out on a date and again these are things that usually come up in the blind dating situation where you have met through online dating or speed dating or a dating service or something like that.
So again, it is all about giving the man a chance to get to the point where he wants to impress you and then see if he can come up to the table, but the other thing is in today s dating as women we fought so hard for equal pay for equal jobs, and so we have confused these poor men. They do not know whether we want them to pay for them or not.
So, again do not be surprised if the guy does not pay because he is just not sure whether he should or whether he should not, and certainly if the man pays for that first coffee or drink and then pays for the dinner, we as women have to start paying by the third time we are getting together, if not it is just poor manners and what we are going to do is leave a very poor impression upon the man, and he is going to think that all we are going to is freeload on him for the rest of our life.
So, I do not recommend that you start going down to the last penny and splitting bills fifty-fifty and saying okay you owe $12.
97 or getting into exactly who ordered what on the menu. What you should do as the relationship develops is if the man asks you out for dinner one time, the next time whatever you are doing should be your treat, and you know it will work out more or less evenly, do not start going down to the very penny but again give the man a chance to get into date mood and to prove to you that he is really interested in you and he wants to impress you.