What is the fourth attitude of dating?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Relationship expert Gloria MacDonald discusses the fourth of the seven attitudes of highly successful daters.

    Gloria MacDonald

    Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

    Host: What is the fourth attitude of dating?

    Gloria MacDonald: Attitude number four is honoring. We really suggest you create a code of honor. Think that like the military or any team, in the military for example, it is always mission first, team second and individual third. So, if your mission is to find a truly incredible person, you are going to do whatever it takes to find that person that means you are going to have to move out of your comfort zone. You might have to do things that you would not normally do, whether that is trying online dating or using a dating service or being willing to go out there and say hello to a stranger or learn how to flirt, but it is mission first. So, do whatever it takes to accomplish that mission.

    Second is team, so when you meet somebody new, when you are out there on a blind date, you need to honor that person. Think of it even though this person does not know they are part of your team, think of it as this person who you are meeting is part of your team. You both have a common mission. Your mission is to find a wonderful partner. So, honor that person, think of them as a teammate and treat them with honor. So, do not do anything to them in terms of being negative or critical or judgmental that you would not want someone to do to you. Treat that person with honor and respect no matter what, even if that person is not the man or woman of your dreams.

    The third thing is, individual last, so you are putting yourself last but you are still honoring yourself. So, let us say you have a really horrible blind date. Do not go away and rehash every single thing you did wrong, Oh, I should not have said this. Oh, I spilled spaghetti on myself whatever. Do not criticize yourself. Honor yourself.

    So, really have a code of honor for the whole process, for your mission, for the other individual as your team member and for yourself.