What is the third attitude of dating?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Relationship expert Gloria MacDonald discusses the third of the seven attitudes of highly successful daters.

    Gloria MacDonald

    Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

    Host: What is the third attitude of dating?

    Gloria MacDonald: The third attitude is suspending judgment; we call the three date rule. As human beings we can not help it, we just form judgments. We have a first impression and we can not help that we just do, but if you can suspend judgment and say, Okay, so I have a first impression of this person and maybe it is not everything you thought you were looking for. Maybe there was not instant chemistry, but if you can suspend judgment and say, I am going to continue to look for the positive things in that individual and commit to yourself that you are going to go out with someone at least three times because so often, our first impressions are not correct, they are not accurate.

    We have had so many experiences in our dating service where we have introduced two people and one of the two people thought after they met the first time, No way. This is not the right person for me and we talked them into going out a second or third time and today they are married or living together. So, you can not always trust those first impressions.