What is the third commandment of goal setting?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Goals expert Gary Ryan Blair discusses the importance of accepting failure when working to achieve goals.

    Gary Ryan Blair

    Gary is the President of The GoalsGuy Learning Systems, a highly focused training organization whose mission is to help their clients build and sustain superior performance. They accomplish this objective by helping their clients increase their sense of direction, confidence, and capability in all areas of their personal and professional life.

    Gary believes passionately in the enormous, untapped potential that resides within each person and is committed to providing individuals and corporations with tools of knowledge and skill they can use to unlock this potential. He has developed an entire library of world-class training programs, books and learning resources like the Personal Strategic Plan that are designed to make the heart sing, the mind expand and the spirit soar!

    To support his belief in the importance of goal setting and focus, Gary has established and sponsored two nationally recognized events: Youth Goals Education Week, a unique opportunity for kids and teens to learn about goal setting and its influence on their future, and New Year's Resolutions Week, an insightful series of activities designed to encourage people to set goals for their lives.

    Gary believes that life will not go according to plan, if you do not have a plan. He shares this belief and his unique strategies with school systems and companies around the world such as IBM, NASA, General Electric, Federal Express, Ford and many others.

    In addition to The GoalsGuy, Gary has created the wildly successful got goals?® campaign. It's mission is to inspire people to Be More, Do More and to ultimately Have More from life.

    His personal philosophy can be summarized into two words: Everything Counts!™ He believes in sweating the small stuff, and teaches that every action, word and thought either moves you toward or away from your goals, mission and ultimate legacy; that every moment offers an opportunity for advancement or retreat.

    When Gary speaks and writes, he does so from the heart, with warmth and humor. His unique gift is to speak to an audience and communicate with the heart of each person as if they were alone having an important, intimate conversation. A polished storyteller, he has a way of making the seemingly complex, easy to understand.

    Gary, his wife Erika, son Ryan, and daughter Libby live in Tampa, Florida with their two wonder-dogs Beefcake and Pork chop.

    Host: What is the third commandment of goal setting?

    Gary Ryan Blair: The third commandment is thou shall welcome failure and at sometimes, this is a difficult one for people to accept, but failures guarantee to happen for a number of reasons and probably the best way to look at it, is simply to law of cause in effect. There are three cause and effect relationships. No cause, no effect, wrong cause, wrong effect and right cause, right effect.

    What we will realize is that success leads clues and failure leads clues. When we talk about effects, we are talking about results, outcomes and if you trace anything back which you will realize is that those are the causative agents. The causes, the things that produce outcomes in your -- in your life, really are three things, it's what you think, it's what you say and it's what you do.

    So, you believe systems, it's the words that you verbalize and it is the actions that you engage in. If failure takes place, it's the result of one those three things. What we need to do is we need to identify, now unless you get back and get back on a horse and take necessary corrective action.

    But failure is going to happen, it's not negative, it just realize that, one person can look at it is the output of an unsuccessful activity. A high performer who will always look at it as the input for a successful activity and now, I just realize that failure provides you with fuel, it provides you with information, provides you with insights.

    It simply means, that at a given period of time or a temporary situation, you made a move that was incorrect and the key is to stop, look at the failure, examine it, extract the lessons and then apply the new found knowledge. If we don't learn the lessons, we will continue to repeat the failure and unfortunately that is what a lot of people do.