Who should pay for the second date?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Gloria MacDonald shares her opinion on who should be the one to pay for a second date.

    Gloria MacDonald

    Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

    Host: Who should pay for the second date?

    Gloria MacDonald: If you are going out on a second date and it is a dinner, generally speaking, the man will offer to pay and I highly recommend to the woman that you graciously accept and allow him to pay. Now in this day and age, that's not going to go on forever and in fact, women, after the second date especially, if the man has paid for your drinks or your coffee the first time you have met and now he has paid for your dinner, by the third time you are getting together, it is absolutely up to you to offer to pay. You cannot after the second meeting or date expect this man to pay for the third date. Even if there is a huge discrepancy in income, you need to do something to show the man that you are going to contribute to this relationship. So let's say, there is a huge discrepancy in income and the man makes far more money than you do, then maybe you do something where you invite him over to your home for dinner and you are going to cook a meal. But, by the third time you are getting together, you need to show the man that you are going to contribute to the relationship and that you are not going to be freeloading throughout the whole relationship. But guys, there is nothing that's going to impress a woman more than if you pay for that dinner on the second date and if you don't pay for it, unfortunately, she is going to think you are cheap and she is going to think that you are not going to pay for anything throughout the whole relationship and if you have listened to some of the other segments, we talked about the fact that women on a subconscious level are looking for a man who can provide for them. Provide home, shelter, food, clothing and can provide status and part of that provision, even if the woman doesn't need the money, is the man showing that he is gracious enough, he is generous enough and he can afford to buy a nice dinner for the woman?