Do I have to focus on all aspects of taking care of myself at once?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Motivational speaker Ria Benedict discusses why it’s important to focus on all aspects of taking care of yourself.

    Ria Benedict

    I left my job as a high profile government official and attorney to pursue my passion -- establishing I-LOVE-ME, LLC and the i-love-me collection.  This business was created from my own journey to love myself after a life of being a perfectionist, overworking, major health issues, a 6-year unfulfilling marriage (and subsequent divorce), and doing what everyone else wanted me to do and be.  When I started to put ME first, everything in my life changed:  I lost 50 pounds, developed good boundaries with others, learned how to say "no," eliminated the dis-eases that ruled my life, and put my work life in proper perspective.  I also re-established a relationship with my father after 18 years of silence between us.  In short, my gray world turned to color by making one decision to have a better life -- a life I deserved.  Now, I feel grateful for everything that has happened and will happen in my life.

    People often asked me what I did to make such a radical change and what I was doing that gave me my new "glow."  Some even said it appeared I had reinvented myself.  It was then that I realized that my story is not unique -- many women suffer from the same neglect that can only happen when she takes care of everyone and everything but herself. 

    The i-love-me collection is dedicated to all women who need a reminder or want to be inspired by the message that she is a woman before she is a wife, sister, daughter, mother, friend, or co-worker.  It is an invitation to pursue a life of self-love.  I now have a website that features the successful journeys of other women and seeks to become a place where women can feel supported when they otherwise feel like a team of one. 

    BE loving, happy, yourself, free.

    Host: Do I have to focus on all aspects of taking care of myself at once?

    Ria Moore Benedict: No, in fact, I know the top ten can seem kind of daunting but the real issue is that you start doing something where ever is that you are, pick something on the list and just start with that, start with the thing that s easiest for you to do and incorporate that into your life and then slowly corporate the others as you learn how to become more loving towards yourself.