Don’t Make Impossible Demands

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Valorie Burton for Focus on the Family talks about how to avoid impossible demands and the importance of recognizing what parents can realistically expect from kids at different ages.

    Valorie Burton: It's important that children learn to obey their parents, but do they understand what we're asking?

    From the time children are very young, they can learn to follow direction, but knowing what you can realistically expect from kids at different ages can be a bit confusing. You can start by trying to determine what your child is capable of doing. Of course, you don't treat a teenager like you do a 10 year old and you don't treat a 10 year old like you would a 3 year old, it's important to adjust your level of communication and delegation. Then watch for signs that your kids get it.

    Younger children may give you a simple expression that says, I don't understand. Sometimes you'll see a level of disappointment or frustration when children are carrying out something you've asked them to do. That can be a sign to step in, offer help and re-explain expectations.

    One of the greatest challenges of parenting is walking that fine-line between unrealistic expectations and not enough expectations. Here are some tips to help. Get your child to try various chores and see what they can do. If they can't dust the TV, have them set the table.

    Praise your child for any progress you see. Consider setting up some sort of reward system and finally gradually challenge your child with more difficult tasks. If your child can dry the dishes, have them try washing them. The more your children are challenged, the more they'll try and they'll more success they and you will enjoy.

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