Daris Lancaster Stojakovich: Hi! I am Daris Lancaster Stojakovich, Clinical Hypnotherapist and Life Coach. Today we are talking about holiday stress and some tips for coping with stress as well as eliminating and relieving it during the holiday season. Right now, I am going to be talking about a really common stressor doing too much in too little time.
So how can I avoid the stress of having way too much to do and too little time to do it in? This is a really command feeling most of us get, because added to our normal daily routine, we have all of the events, all of the meal planning, the travel, the gifts shopping, decorating all the list of to-do items gets longer and longer. So one of the first things you can realize that you need to do is to plan ahead.
Now again, we know that the holidays are coming, we experience them about once a year. So if you plan ahead knowing that you are going to be busier, you can actually decide like some people to begin shopping earlier, shop early and often. You can do a lot of things early. Some people will find that addressing their Christmas or their holiday cards early can really put a jump on. Even putting the stamp on it and throwing it in the mail when the holidays approach closer, can be really just something that you would be amazed that how much time and stress release they can cause.
Another thing you can do to relieve the stress of having too much to do is learn to say, no. No, its one word, its a complete sentence, No. You can add to it, no thank you, no, I am too busy but generally, just no, being able to say, no, if you look at your schedule and realize you have too many events scheduled; three events for one weekend is too much for some people. Again, it might be that exhilarating and motivating thing for someone else, but if you find that doing too much is a source of stress for you, make sure that you are aware of your calender, aware of the planning and be able to say no.
Another thing that you can do to eliminate that stress of doing too much in too little time is to delegate. Now if you are going to choose to delegate, you have to keep in mind about who you are delegating to. If you choose to delegate someone that you know wont follow through, well, thats your own expectation, it's going to lead to more stress. So as you choose to delegate, the common myth of I can do it faster, better than anyone else needs to go out the window. It comes down to, do I need to do it myself with the risk of it possibly not getting done, then you can choose to delegate the things that you feel comfortable letting go to someone else.
One easy way to delegate is instead of doing all of the holiday festive meal planning and hosting yourself, to have a meal where you are the host, where you create the environment and the setting and your guests brings the meal. Another thing thats very helpful to handle the stress of doing too much in too little time is to really take time for yourself, to be able to take quick breaks, to be able to have an escape, a heaven to go to, to be able to learn to some techniques and tips such as mindfulness practice, which we will talk about later, its a practice of being present, and deep relaxation techniques and even self-hypnosis techniques that can really change the mindset and turn just a moments time into a really good de-stressing break.
One thing that people tend to miss when they are caught up in their hectic, busy stay in the holidays with too much to do in too little time is that they are not enjoying their journey along the way to the destination. A lot of people say that after the holiday is over they feel a huge sense of disappointment. After the gifts are opened Christmas morning, for example, or the holiday meal is eaten, they just feel a letdown.
Well, clearly if have learned to enjoy the journey or being able to enjoy the journey along the way, they would not have that empty feeling afterward. To be able to enjoy the journey do not dread it. For example, lets use a holiday meal. You put a lot of anticipations and expectations into the holiday meal. When the holiday meal is over, if it didnt turn out as you wished, rather than being in the moment and enjoying what was really happening, a lot of times you might just feel that it wasnt appreciated and that they didnt receive it as you wished they did. One thing you can also do is to realize that during interactions like that, you can actually take charge of situation, if you are aware and being present in the moment, things like stopping negativity.
So I hope that some of these tips for reducing stress of having too much to do in too little time during the holidays has been helpful for you. Next, we are going to be talking about relationships and family interactions and how to avoid the stress of those during the holidays.