How can I create balance between my work and personal life?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Motivational speaker Ria Benedict discusses how you can create balance between your work and personal life.

    Ria Benedict

    I left my job as a high profile government official and attorney to pursue my passion -- establishing I-LOVE-ME, LLC and the i-love-me collection.  This business was created from my own journey to love myself after a life of being a perfectionist, overworking, major health issues, a 6-year unfulfilling marriage (and subsequent divorce), and doing what everyone else wanted me to do and be.  When I started to put ME first, everything in my life changed:  I lost 50 pounds, developed good boundaries with others, learned how to say "no," eliminated the dis-eases that ruled my life, and put my work life in proper perspective.  I also re-established a relationship with my father after 18 years of silence between us.  In short, my gray world turned to color by making one decision to have a better life -- a life I deserved.  Now, I feel grateful for everything that has happened and will happen in my life.

    People often asked me what I did to make such a radical change and what I was doing that gave me my new "glow."  Some even said it appeared I had reinvented myself.  It was then that I realized that my story is not unique -- many women suffer from the same neglect that can only happen when she takes care of everyone and everything but herself. 

    The i-love-me collection is dedicated to all women who need a reminder or want to be inspired by the message that she is a woman before she is a wife, sister, daughter, mother, friend, or co-worker.  It is an invitation to pursue a life of self-love.  I now have a website that features the successful journeys of other women and seeks to become a place where women can feel supported when they otherwise feel like a team of one. 

    BE loving, happy, yourself, free.

    Host: How can I create balance between my work and personal life?

    Ria Moore Benedict: Creating balance in your life is one of the hardest things you can do, but of course one of the easiest things you can do. The first thing you should do, is make a list of all those things in your life that make you feel good about your life. The activities that make you feel like you are having a good life and so, for me for example, that would be spending time with my family and friends, work activities, having time for me, pampering me, learning new activities, all of those types of things.

    So, then you take a look at how you are actually spending time in your life and where you see an empty category, then you know, you need to refill that, and rebalance your life. So, to do that get at a calendar, and start marking on your calendar those activities to make sure that you have some balance.