I left my job as a high profile government official and attorney to pursue my passion -- establishing I-LOVE-ME, LLC and the i-love-me collection. This business was created from my own journey to love myself after a life of being a perfectionist, overworking, major health issues, a 6-year unfulfilling marriage (and subsequent divorce), and doing what everyone else wanted me to do and be. When I started to put ME first, everything in my life changed: I lost 50 pounds, developed good boundaries with others, learned how to say "no," eliminated the dis-eases that ruled my life, and put my work life in proper perspective. I also re-established a relationship with my father after 18 years of silence between us. In short, my gray world turned to color by making one decision to have a better life -- a life I deserved. Now, I feel grateful for everything that has happened and will happen in my life.
People often asked me what I did to make such a radical change and what I was doing that gave me my new "glow." Some even said it appeared I had reinvented myself. It was then that I realized that my story is not unique -- many women suffer from the same neglect that can only happen when she takes care of everyone and everything but herself.
The i-love-me collection is dedicated to all women who need a reminder or want to be inspired by the message that she is a woman before she is a wife, sister, daughter, mother, friend, or co-worker. It is an invitation to pursue a life of self-love. I now have a website that features the successful journeys of other women and seeks to become a place where women can feel supported when they otherwise feel like a team of one.
BE loving, happy, yourself, free.
Host: How can I do one nice thing for myself everyday?
Ria Moore Benedict: Well, the great thing about doing one nice thing for yourself is that it can be as large or small as you want it to be, it can be buying that new car that you always wanted, taking that vacation that you wanted, going on a shopping spree, or it can be something really small and sometimes with our busy schedule, it's actually easier to do it that way.
So, for example, what could do in your busy life style, incorporate one nice thing for yourself. You can sleep in if that helps, five extra minutes, might be the check, you could cook a healthy meal instead of just any old thing to go together, make sure it s a healthy one, one that s good for you or if you have a really good walk to work but there s another one that not quite so scenic, take a one scenic one. That will be a nice thing for you do for yourself as well. Listen to music in the car while you are driving. All of these things are things that you do for yourself, but don t think that it has to be darn things, it just has to be one thing.