How can I get involved in activities that make me feel good?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Motivational speaker Ria Benedict discusses how to get involved in activities that make you feel good.

    Ria Benedict

    I left my job as a high profile government official and attorney to pursue my passion -- establishing I-LOVE-ME, LLC and the i-love-me collection.  This business was created from my own journey to love myself after a life of being a perfectionist, overworking, major health issues, a 6-year unfulfilling marriage (and subsequent divorce), and doing what everyone else wanted me to do and be.  When I started to put ME first, everything in my life changed:  I lost 50 pounds, developed good boundaries with others, learned how to say "no," eliminated the dis-eases that ruled my life, and put my work life in proper perspective.  I also re-established a relationship with my father after 18 years of silence between us.  In short, my gray world turned to color by making one decision to have a better life -- a life I deserved.  Now, I feel grateful for everything that has happened and will happen in my life.

    People often asked me what I did to make such a radical change and what I was doing that gave me my new "glow."  Some even said it appeared I had reinvented myself.  It was then that I realized that my story is not unique -- many women suffer from the same neglect that can only happen when she takes care of everyone and everything but herself. 

    The i-love-me collection is dedicated to all women who need a reminder or want to be inspired by the message that she is a woman before she is a wife, sister, daughter, mother, friend, or co-worker.  It is an invitation to pursue a life of self-love.  I now have a website that features the successful journeys of other women and seeks to become a place where women can feel supported when they otherwise feel like a team of one. 

    BE loving, happy, yourself, free.

    Host: How can get I involved in activities that make me feel good?

    Ria Moore Benedict: Well, the first thing that you need to do is ask yourself what you are interested in, not what you are interested in doing but just generally what you are interested in because often times the activities 0;15 .

    If you are really have an hard time still determining if that activity is something that you really want to do and if you are more intuitive person, you can do a little exercise that I like to do. You can take a few deep breaths, focus a little bit, have some quite time and just ask yourself, will I like this particular activity and see what kind of mental picture comes to your mind. Do you get a yes response coming to your mind or do you get no response and that will help you out.