I left my job as a high profile government official and attorney to pursue my passion -- establishing I-LOVE-ME, LLC and the i-love-me collection. This business was created from my own journey to love myself after a life of being a perfectionist, overworking, major health issues, a 6-year unfulfilling marriage (and subsequent divorce), and doing what everyone else wanted me to do and be. When I started to put ME first, everything in my life changed: I lost 50 pounds, developed good boundaries with others, learned how to say "no," eliminated the dis-eases that ruled my life, and put my work life in proper perspective. I also re-established a relationship with my father after 18 years of silence between us. In short, my gray world turned to color by making one decision to have a better life -- a life I deserved. Now, I feel grateful for everything that has happened and will happen in my life.
People often asked me what I did to make such a radical change and what I was doing that gave me my new "glow." Some even said it appeared I had reinvented myself. It was then that I realized that my story is not unique -- many women suffer from the same neglect that can only happen when she takes care of everyone and everything but herself.
The i-love-me collection is dedicated to all women who need a reminder or want to be inspired by the message that she is a woman before she is a wife, sister, daughter, mother, friend, or co-worker. It is an invitation to pursue a life of self-love. I now have a website that features the successful journeys of other women and seeks to become a place where women can feel supported when they otherwise feel like a team of one.
BE loving, happy, yourself, free.
Host: How can I incorporate activities that make me feel centered and grounded?
Ria Moore Benedict: Well, meditation is my top choice for that. Lot of people like to sit in meditation with their legs crossed, I personally prefer turning on my back with my heels together feet together, hands out, palms facing upward and just think about something pleasant for me. Sometimes it will be the color blue, sometimes it will be my favorite place, the beach but whatever it is, make it something that s goods for.
You can even think of a word, picture, hovering over your head like the word peace, or the word love. Other activities include walking, yoga or just exercising in general. Basically, the idea is that you want to engage yourself in activities that help you to focus on you. That way you feel more centered afterwards, you feel more grounded, you feel more peaceful, your body will be more relaxed and you will be a grounded person.