Host: How can we make co-parenting work?
John Spiegel: A key part of making the co-parenting relationship work well is the establishing effective communication. That means communication about the children, about their lives, exchanging information, so that both parents can function effectively and towards that end, many parents find it is helpful to have a weekly phone call that's just about the children.
You might pick a particular day of the week, a particular time of the day when you know that your children are not going to be around and will not hear it and you can setup ground rules that you will not talk about hot issues, contentious issues between the two of you, you will just talk about things relating to parenting.
Some couples believe in having understanding that if one person forgets and begins to talk about issues that are not about the children, that are contentious issues the other parent will remind them, that is not what we are here for and that is usually enough.