How do I end a first meeting?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Gloria MacDonald explains the proper way to end a first date or meeting.

    Gloria MacDonald

    Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

    Host: Are there important things I should do on my first meeting?

    Gloria MacDonald: One of the really important things to do when you are in that first meeting situation is to take clues from the other person. So, listen, look at their body language. The more you can reflect what they are doing, the more comfortable they will feel. It is subconscious, but its the way human beings work.

    So for as a simple example, if you ask the other person if they have any children and they give you a relatively short answer saying, Yup, I have got two great kids, I have got a daughter who is five and I have got a son who is seven. Then when they ask you about your children, you also need to give a relatively simple answer. Dont go on for hours and hours and hours about your kids and what they do in soccer and what they do in basketball and how they take piano lessons and ballet. If the other person gave a brief answer, then you want to keep your answer fairly brief. Feel free to ask the person a little bit more about their kids but if they dont go on and on about it, then take that as a clue that thats not something they are comfortable about right, to talking about right now. So mirror their response in terms of the amount of information they are giving you.

    We get comments about for example, from a man that the woman did nothing but talk about her kids and its a turnoff to the man or it can be a turnoff to the man, even if the man is a father. So just really listen to the other person, try to get a sense of what's interesting to them, what's important to them and how much they are willing to share and balance your conversation by their conversation.