How do you know if you’ve found the right person?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Relationship expert Gloria MacDonald discusses how to know if you’ve found the right person.

    Gloria MacDonald

    Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

    How do you know if you have found the right person?

    The big question for so many of us is how do you know if you found the right person? How do you know if you found Mr. or Miss Right? Lots of people feel like, Well, is it, it s just gut reaction, is it gut reaction or is there a list of pros and cons that I am supposed to weigh? Lots and lots of us have been in situations where we thought we found Mr. or Miss Right, but clearly that wasn t the right person because here we are single again. So, just how do you know?

    Now, lots of people say, Well, I just know in the first 30 to 60 seconds when I meet someone if this is the right person. Well, I think that's a bit tough. Yes, lots of us, we have gut reactions, we all do, we can't stop that, it is human nature, it s going to happen. But for us to make a decision that affects the rest of our lives, based on 30 to 60 seconds of information, well, frankly you are doing yourself a disservice if you are saying, I just know within the first 30 to 60 seconds, because you get an impression but that impression isn t always the right impression, especially because when you meet someone for the first time, especially if you are, if this is a setup, if it is, you are meeting through friends for the first time, if it s a blind date, both people are anxious, they are nervous, they are excited, they are not 100% themselves. So, you really need to give it a chance. This is not just about that instant gut reaction, nor is it strictly about analyzing everything in a list of pros and cons. It really is a question of a combination of both.