How does pure lovemaking affect each partner in their well being?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Relationship expert Chris Wright explains how pure lovemaking can affect each partner in their well being.

    Chris Wright

    Chris Wright is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist.  He sees clients in the Washington, D.C. area and has telephone clients from all over the world.  He also has over 35 years of experience as a trainer and workshop leader in human and organizational development across the U.S. and Canada.   Chris was founder and director of the Human Relations Institute in Houston, Texas.  He was also the Director of PAIRS International -- training psychologists, psychiatrists and therapists in couple’s skills programs.     As an innovator in the field, he has developed a unique blend of tools that increase the effectiveness in relationships -- for couples and in the workplace.  He has Masters Degrees from the University of Arizona and Antioch University in Los Angeles.

    Host: How does pure love making affect each partner in their wellbeing?

    Chris Wright: When you tap in to these fundamental life currents, these energies together, they affect you in your wellbeing, maybe in ways that you have not anticipated or expected. These are magnetic energies that enliven you, they balance your nervous system, they nourish your whole mind body and spirit together as a powerful effect on your personal sense of wellbeing.

    It is like your opening up into a powerful, it is like a shower of sparkling energy when you connect in sexual union, in lovemaking that flushes through all the fatigue, all the tension, all of the tiredness gets flushed out of the system and you feel refreshed, you feel back in balance again, at the same time it connects you to your center inside yourself, you are fully relaxed where you feel really at peace inside. And so both of these together, you feel enlivened, feel alive again but at the same time you feel relaxed and at peace again. Whatever your nervous system needs in experience, when you connect to these energies, it is like a battery recharger for you maybe you cellphone when you connect the masculine and feminine union together that that energies that you are connecting to inside yourself is like a recharger and whatever your system is needing in that moment, it provides a wholeness, a balancing effect that brings you back in to the experience where you do feel whole, you feel yourself again, so lovemaking is more now than just about pleasure, just about sex, it is about connecting in a way that enlivens your sense of self, your wellbeing. It balances you from wherever you are out of balance that nourishes you in some way within yourself.

    As a result in this way, in this process of lovemaking whereas before you would find excuses to having sex, Oh! I am too tired, I do not, you know I had a long day and lot of fatigue, in this process that would be the time, you do want to come together and make love to feel close, to feel intimate, to recharge your batteries, to flush out all the tiredness of the day, to get you out of your head and back in your body, back in the sense of wholeness and balance to go into evening or rest of the week.

    Same thing, I am too tired, I am too stressed out, I get too much on my mind, I am with too many worries, that is the time you would want to make love, you would want to connect that masculine, feminine connection to flush out all those tensions, all that stress, come back in to that life force that is within your center, feel that nourish you, fill you, balance you again, so you feel relaxed, you feel connected again to yourself not disconnected.

    Some people are used to give excuses, well I am not in the mood, it is like sex is a big production, it takes a lot of energy, a lot of getting each other turned on and all of this. Lovemaking is not about getting each other turned on, it is about being close, it is about being intimate, when you are not in the mood that would be the sign that that would be the time you would want to be close, you want to be held, you would want to connect to these energies, to flush that out and get your center back.

    Even the excuses, I do not have time, we never have time to have sex. Well, really, you have time to take a shower, it does not take five, ten, 15, even 20 minutes together connected, tapped in to these energies. You are going to find incredible sense of wellbeing that permeates from you, connecting to yourself in a very profound way, in a way that you can t reach by yourself, that when you connect to the other energies, the masculine or feminine, combined flushes all that out and produces a sense of wellbeing. So whatever your nervus system needs at that time that is what your system gets and that s what determines the experience that you have during lovemaking and it brings you back in to absorbing these energies where it nourishes you and you feel like you have yourself back again.