Valorie Burton: Sure, everyone loves the winner, but what if we lose? Life has its ups and downs and our children are watching us through every adventurous step and although it's important to teach kids how to handle success, they may benefit more from learning what to do when things don't quite go as planned. Layoffs, financial strain and other setbacks are scary and discouraging. But children need to see that mom and dad can handle disappointment and then it's not the end of the world.
When hardship hits, let your kids know the problem is really only temporary and the family is going to stick together and get through it. You may have to make sacrifices or adjustments, but you will make it. Plus, failure can be seen as just a step on the path to success, if nobody gives up. Some of the strongest times of growth can occur when children see their parents deal with failure in a constructive way.
Our kids need to understand that things won't always go their way, but when hard times to come, we can actually become stronger by persevering in the face of adversity and that's the mark of a real winner.