If your company has a policy prohibiting office dating, do you go ahead anyway and keep it a secret?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Dating and relationship coach Toni Coleman discusses office romances, including how to deal with a policy prohibiting office dating.

    Speaker: If your company has a policy prohibiting this, do you go ahead anyway and keep it a secret?

    Toni Coleman: Certainly, that happens in certain percentage of the time and depending upon who you talk to, some folks really think that's an okay thing, the reason being that, the bully says is that our personal life and personal goals should take priority over our work goals. So for a lot of people they are saying, if I meet is the really right person and this is someone I can really see myself spending the rest of my life with and we are really going to be good together. So then have to choose between the job, which is probably not going to be a lifetime thing or the person, very often people choose the person. Now that being said, that when they do they have to be prepared for fallout if it's absolutely not - it's in the policy that this not okay and the fact they might have to be indeed give up their job which could then have a very negative impact on the relationship who they are going to fire or they are going to fire both of them. How is that going to be handled, and very often one is chosen to be let go and the other is not and this can then create problem in the relationship. So certainly, it's tricky and I think it's the kind of thing that everybody has to make-up their own mind about that and really think about what's important to them and what they value most and what they want to risk and what they want to go for.