Is friendship a possibility after a break up?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Gloria MacDonald offers her opinion on whether friendship is possible after ending a romantic relationship.

    Gloria MacDonald

    Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

    Host: Is friendship a possibility after a breakup?

    Gloria MacDonald: After a breakup, lots of people say, Well, let's be friends. I think it is wonderful and wouldn't it be wonderful if everyone had amicable separations in their relationships no matter how long-term or short-term they were?

    I think respecting and again and honoring and really having a sense of admiration for the other person is the way it should be and you might be able to remain friends for a short period of time, but I think when it comes to male-female relationships or any kind of relationship where there has been an intimacy, then it is hard to keep that relationship going on a strictly platonic level or friendship level, once another person or once one of the two people is ready to move on and start another relationship. So it in the long run, I think it is very difficult for a male and a female to have a truly platonic relationship. We can say we want to be friends and that's a wonderful intention and I think that's where we should start in terms of caring about continuing to care about the other human being, but to really continue to stay in touch and go out to dinner together and have lunches together and go to the movies together, I don't think that's something that for the large majority of us that we truly can do if we are also going to move on and find someone else in our lives.