Is it okay to speak badly of the person I’ve broken up with?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Gloria MacDonald addresses whether it is ever appropriate to speak badly of a person after breaking up with them.

    Gloria MacDonald

    Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

    Host: Is it okay to speak badly of the person I have broken up with?

    Gloria MacDonald: one of the things that lots of us unfortunately do when we have had a breakup and we are feeling hurt is we can sometimes, badmouth the other person and that never ends up reflecting positively on you. So no matter what you do, be quite careful that you don't start berating and badmouthing the other person. Again, it goes back to respecting yourself enough to know that that's okay. There is someone better out there for you, better for you, not necessarily if that, that was a bad person, but that if that person didn't truly love and respect and cared for you and cherished you, well, you know what, you deserve someone who does do all those things. So there is a better person for you out there. So respect yourself enough that you know that and then you can respect them and there is no reason to badmouth them, berate them. So make sure you are staying positive and upbeat about the other person and then that only reflects better on you.