Is the first step really the hardest?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Goals expert Gary Ryan Blair discusses how the first step in goal planning is actually the easiest. It gets more challenging when you are faced with the three main questions – what do you need to know? what do you want to know? and what are you afraid of hearing?

    Gary Ryan Blair

    Gary is the President of The GoalsGuy Learning Systems, a highly focused training organization whose mission is to help their clients build and sustain superior performance. They accomplish this objective by helping their clients increase their sense of direction, confidence, and capability in all areas of their personal and professional life.

    Gary believes passionately in the enormous, untapped potential that resides within each person and is committed to providing individuals and corporations with tools of knowledge and skill they can use to unlock this potential. He has developed an entire library of world-class training programs, books and learning resources like the Personal Strategic Plan that are designed to make the heart sing, the mind expand and the spirit soar!

    To support his belief in the importance of goal setting and focus, Gary has established and sponsored two nationally recognized events: Youth Goals Education Week, a unique opportunity for kids and teens to learn about goal setting and its influence on their future, and New Year's Resolutions Week, an insightful series of activities designed to encourage people to set goals for their lives.

    Gary believes that life will not go according to plan, if you do not have a plan. He shares this belief and his unique strategies with school systems and companies around the world such as IBM, NASA, General Electric, Federal Express, Ford and many others.

    In addition to The GoalsGuy, Gary has created the wildly successful got goals?® campaign. It's mission is to inspire people to Be More, Do More and to ultimately Have More from life.

    His personal philosophy can be summarized into two words: Everything Counts!™ He believes in sweating the small stuff, and teaches that every action, word and thought either moves you toward or away from your goals, mission and ultimate legacy; that every moment offers an opportunity for advancement or retreat.

    When Gary speaks and writes, he does so from the heart, with warmth and humor. His unique gift is to speak to an audience and communicate with the heart of each person as if they were alone having an important, intimate conversation. A polished storyteller, he has a way of making the seemingly complex, easy to understand.

    Gary, his wife Erika, son Ryan, and daughter Libby live in Tampa, Florida with their two wonder-dogs Beefcake and Pork chop.

    Host: Is the first step really the hardest?

    Gary Ryan Blair: The first step is not the hardest, the first step actually is the easiest one, because all that requires is, you to make a decision and just jump in. The problem, that you will find out very quickly, is that the second step is the hardest. Planning is the only tool that provides you with information and information comes in three varieties, if you will, it's good, it's bad and it's ugly.

    Another way of looking at it is, what you need to know? What you want to know? What you are afraid of hearing? The vast majority people are impulsive, so they see something that looks exciting, appetizing, interesting, seductive in some way, so, they will get the game and they will jump in, but they won't think for the cost to raise the investments or sacrifices and they will pay a pretty deep price. If you take the time to do planning in advance and ask yourself, what do I really need to know about this situation? and do your homework. What is it that I want to know? What are the key things?

    Well, most people basically play the game of -- as long as they satisfy my wants and they just look at the appetizing end result, the benefit of achieving the goal. They will take an impulsive step. Here's what happens, when you get to step number two, you suddenly realize, that you know what, I probably should have been a bit more patient. I shouldn't have been so impulsive and you get to step two and you say if I knew then, what I knew now? I never would have made this decision in the first place. The reason why people have their conversation, is because what they find out that step number two is all of the relevant information.

    You can equate this to very simple and infomercial. Infomercials, what they do, is they constantly tell people, what they want to hear? Drink this, you'll lose weight, wear this, you'll look great, rub this on your thighs, swelling is gone in a day or week. Well, in actuality all they are doing is you are feeding towards that selfish little motivator inside, just tell me what I want to hear. Then what happens is, once we make the investment, we realize that there is really more to this game and as a result of it, people wine up quitting, making excuses, pointing a finger, and creating an alibi for why they never fall through under commitment in the first place.