Is there a downside to parents anticipating a child’s needs?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Parenting educator Dr. Rene Hackney talks about the potential downside to parents anticipating a child’s needs.

    Rene Hackney

    Originally a full-time preschool teacher, Dr. Rene Hackney now holds a Master?s in school psychology and a PhD. in developmental psychology from George Mason University. She trained at the Developmental Clinic at Children?s National Medical Center and for the public schools, teaching in parenting programs at each. She has also acted as a consultant to several area preschools.

    For the last four years, Dr. Hackney has owned and lectured for Parenting Playgroups, Inc, a parenting resource center and preschool classroom in Alexandria Virginia. She has offered workshops to a wide

    range of parent, teacher and social work groups during this time.

    Workshop topics include eight hours on positive discipline techniques, five hours on early academic issues and common issues such as sibling rivalry and potty training. All workshops provide well researched lecture, in-class practice and open discussion time. Additionally she hosts a monthly parenting focused book club and fun play programs to introduce the preschool setting to young families.

    Dr. Hackney is married and has two young children of her own.

    Host: Is there a downside to parents anticipating a child s needs?

    Rene Hackney: A lot of times when children have late language and maybe that parent or other siblings are anticipating that child s needs to often. For a young child who comes into the kitchen and wants their cup of milk, they go Uh, uh! And they don t use their words.

    If that cup is given to them there is no need for the child to speak. They don t have to go out and use the language, but if the parents or the elder siblings will not anticipate the need so, the child who comes into the kitchen and points, if the parent goes, Oh! I don t know, what is that you need, you are giving that child an opportunity or an encouragement to speak.

    Now, I wouldn t do that to the point of frustration or tears. You don t want a two year old just devastate, if that nobody is understanding them, but at least a few seconds of encouraging that child to come up put some Language. If the child comes up with anything that s even in the ballpark, if they say ilk. for milk that should be encouraged. So, the parent will say Oh! I understand you wanted your milk. It's not holding out for the perfect word, but it's just encouraging them to use that early language.