Host: Is this imbalance something that will take care of itself over time?
Toni Coleman: The problem with that line of thinking is that if you wait for that to happen, you could very well end up with no friendship. You are pouring yourself and in kind of expecting everybody else to just understand that this person is the most important thing and you just haven't got time for them now but when that relationship gets old then they will be waiting for you to kind of reconnect and it really doesn't work that way.
So yes, as the love relationship becomes more routine, more comfortable then there isn't going to be that same level of excitement, that same sort of sense of urgency. That all consuming feeling that one has and one first falls in love but and so life comes back to a more normal rhythm and there is going to be more desire to spend time with friends but as I said before it's going to be very important that while you are working through that those early stages of excitement and all encompassing a motion that you always remember that the friends are going, they have been there and they are going to continue to be there and you are going to want them in your life and to nurture those relationships at least a little bit.