Chris WrightChris Wright is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. He sees clients in the Washington, D.C. area and has telephone clients from all over the world. He also has over 35 years of experience as a trainer and workshop leader in human and organizational development across the U.S. and Canada. Chris was founder and director of the Human Relations Institute in Houston, Texas. He was also the Director of PAIRS International -- training psychologists, psychiatrists and therapists in couple’s skills programs. As an innovator in the field, he has developed a unique blend of tools that increase the effectiveness in relationships -- for couples and in the workplace. He has Masters Degrees from the University of Arizona and Antioch University in Los Angeles.
Host:What is the first principle for conscious conflict resolution?
Chris Wright:The first principle for making conflicts more harmonious is self-awareness of the pressures inside that affect the relationship. There is an intention to come into balance to do something about it. If each of us are not aware of the pressures inside that affect others in their relationship, for denial, that we have no sense of that and how is ever going to change and if each of us also has no sense of why we are not responding to these other persons needs and what resistances are. Instead we just make the other partner wrong. How is it ever going to change?
So, self-awareness is the most important, it is the foundation of the whole relationship working. So, if we are going to have harmony in this relationship, it becomes important to become self-aware of how we are affecting the relationship and how we are responding each others needs.