Should I set goals for myself on the first date?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Gloria MacDonald explains how to set goals for a first date.

    Gloria MacDonald

    Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

    Host: Should I have expectations on my first meeting?

    Gloria MacDonald: Your expectations for the first meeting should be just that you are going to go meet an interesting person and find out something about this person. Men and women have very different expectations. Women are going into this thinking, This might be the man of my dreams, this might be Prince Charming, this might be the one.

    Women set themselves up for failure because their expectations are way up here and then, if it doesnt work out they are so bumped out. The other thing is, for women, this is a date. Women, you have got to get out of that because for men very often, they havent met you before. This is the first time, this is strictly a meeting. Men are not in date mode, so its a meeting, so they might not be Mr. Prince Charming and everything else. So keep in mind women that for a man, for men this is just a meeting and women, let go of some of all those things, the romance you have around the date. This is not the place where he is going to propose marriage to you. This is just an interesting opportunity to meet a new person.

    So just have those expectations thinking, Gee, I am going to have an interesting time having drinks with someone, having coffee with someone, just fun light hearted.