Julie GreenleeJulie Greenlee, Certified Love & Logic Instructor. Julie is currently Program Director at For Children’s Sake Emergency Diagnostic Center, a child placing agency specializing in therapeutic foster care, adoption, and residential treatment. There she works with the most defiant children. She has received trainings on Childhood Differential Diagnoses, Reactive Attachment Disorder, Autism and Asbergers, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Children and Families with HIV/AIDS, and has become a certified facilitator of Love and Logic which is the philosophy and core that For Children's Sake uses to teach both parents, staff, and community members, on appropriate and effective ways to parent and discipline a normal to extremely defiant child.
Should spanking ever be use during discipline?
Julie Greenlee: I don t think that spanking or ever putting your hands on your kid is ever necessary, when it comes to discipline. We have talked a lot about natural consequences that most of the choices that a kid chooses to make are going to have their own repercussions.
When we choose to put our hand on a kid, there is only one enemy there; there is only bad guy and that s our hand, that s mom and dad. We want our kids to come to us for love and nurturing, not for punishment. We want our kids to learn how to be independent decision makers and the only way that we can do that is to allow kids to only feel hurt to the choices that they make.
Love and logic and for children sake and through my experiences, spanking is never a good option. It leaves children angry, it leaves them feeling rejected by their parent, feeling hurt by their parent and that doesn t leave us in a good place to really discipline them and to provide them with the empathy and consult them to make the decisions in the future.