Should we expect our friends to understand that our new love interest is our first priority?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Relationship expert Toni Coleman provides tips on balancing friends with your new relationship.

    Host: Should we expect our friends to understand that our new love interest is our first priority?

    Toni Coleman: Yes and no. I think what ends up happening is people see a divide between the friends that are in relationship themselves or the friends who are not. I think with the friends who are not, it's not fair to say well they just dont get it, it is just that at this particular time they are not in a relationship, they are not dealing with it, maybe they were in the past, maybe they have recently broken up with somebody or they are divorced and they are really in need of their single friends, of their girl friends, their guy friends and so they are going to have some sensitivity to that or some feelings about that, that you are not going to see with people who are in relationship. So you are like, Yeah, I get it. I need to have time with my significant other, we have weekends together, we have part of the weekend together but I can get together with my friends on nights where he or she is doing something else or working. So I think it really depends upon the friends and where they are at with their lives, but that being said I think it is a very touchy and sensitive issue regardless of who your friends are if you dont handle it well.