How to Have a Successful Relationship (Part 4): Spice up Love
Wouldn’t it be easier to find a new partner?
What should we do when we are starting to feel really upset?
For unhappy couples, could they just be incompatible?
What do we do with our ego needs?
What does it mean to transform sex into lovemaking?
How would creating emotional safety change the relationship?
Can I always de-escalate the pressure?
What does it take for a couple to live the relationship they’ve dreamed of?
2nd Principle: No More Criticizing or Blaming!
What is the range of sexual experiences we can have?
Happiness: How can we increase pleasure and love together?
Part 4 – Lovemaking: Transforming Sex into Lovemaking
If we’re in love, why can there be so much conflict or tension?
Doesn’t honest criticism get your partner to change?
Why does lovemaking seem to change over time to just sex in a marriage?
What can we do right now to be happier?
What range of sexual experiences can we have?
What is an example of tensions creating conflict using the Enneagram?
When something is bothering me, how do I get someone to change?
Where do Turn On’s come from?
What is “compatibility” in a love relationship?
Why does lovemaking seem to change overtime and become just sex in a marriage?
Is the problem our unmet needs or how we communicate our needs with our partner?
3rd Principle: Take Responsibility in a Conflict
How can Turn On’s become a problem?
Where do these personality needs come from?
How does erotic sex become a problem?
In a conflict, isn’t someone right and someone wrong?
4th Principle: Relating is the key to harmony when needs conflict
How would I know when I’m caught up in my Turn On’s?
How can we identify what our core personality needs are?
How do Turn On’s become a problem?
What should we do when our needs conflict?
If I don’t agree how can I validate my partner?
What is the difference between sex and intimacy?
How do we find our personality needs using the Enneagram?
How do we prevent having conflicts with each other?
If I don’t know what my partner is upset about how can I validate it?
How does goal-oriented sex shift the whole experience?
What are the nine personality needs in the Enneagram?
7 Basic Principles for Concious Conflict Resolution