What are your top 3 tips for making that first online contact?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Dating and relationship coach Toni Coleman discusses online dating including the top three tips for making the first online contact.

    Host: What are your top three tips for making that first online contact?

    Toni Coleman: I would say the top tip is to not wait too long. If you see an ad that you are interested in or it somehow gets your attention, if you wait, very often, by the time you do respond, that person could already be communicating with somebody else or several somebody else's. This is something that comes up a lot with online dating is that folks wait and then so, if the moment has passed, the person has met somebody and they write back and they say, "Gee, I have already started talking with someone and I am going to be meeting them and I think I just need to put this process on hold for a while until I see where that goes. So, that would be the first tip. Do not wit too long. Second one is again, think about being appropriate writing something that is pleasant, but does not disclose too much. Do not ever share too much in that first meeting and another very important tip is when you make that contact, pick up on something that they wrote about themselves in their profile and tell them why you connected to it and what you liked about it, because that is going to get their attention and immediately help them to feel more of an emotional connection with you.