What do we do with our ego needs?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Chris Wright talks about ego needs.

    Chris Wright

    Chris Wright is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist.  He sees clients in the Washington, D.C. area and has telephone clients from all over the world.  He also has over 35 years of experience as a trainer and workshop leader in human and organizational development across the U.S. and Canada.   Chris was founder and director of the Human Relations Institute in Houston, Texas.  He was also the Director of PAIRS International -- training psychologists, psychiatrists and therapists in couple’s skills programs.     As an innovator in the field, he has developed a unique blend of tools that increase the effectiveness in relationships -- for couples and in the workplace.  He has Masters Degrees from the University of Arizona and Antioch University in Los Angeles.

    Host:What do we do our ego needs?

    Chris Wright:We need to realize that the ego needs really are a trap. I mean, they are not wrong, we all have them and we certainly want them to responded to and filled, but they really are trap, they bind consciousness and so when you don t have that need, then it doesn t make sense why it matters much to somebody. A three s need to impress people. You don t have that need; it does not make a sense, why are they trying to impress you? An eight s need to be confront as a dominator and a dominating, bullheaded. It s, like why they do need that, it just doesn t, when you don t have those pressures inside yourself, you see through the illusion that really matters, that it is important. So, and for yourself I mean truth is that, if you didn t have that need, you would not be to the top either. For example, if you took a sedative, that you were just wouldn t matter what you are going to argue about anymore. So, we need to come to grips with a lot of things in the conflict that we have, or ego needs that feel real to us. But, the reality comes from the trap, of trying to meet something outside of ourselves; we are desperate to fill, to fill whole. We don t get that need met, we tend to feel empty.

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