What does it mean to not sweat the small stuff?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Motivational speaker Ria Benedict discusses what it means to not sweat the small stuff.

    Ria Benedict

    I left my job as a high profile government official and attorney to pursue my passion -- establishing I-LOVE-ME, LLC and the i-love-me collection.  This business was created from my own journey to love myself after a life of being a perfectionist, overworking, major health issues, a 6-year unfulfilling marriage (and subsequent divorce), and doing what everyone else wanted me to do and be.  When I started to put ME first, everything in my life changed:  I lost 50 pounds, developed good boundaries with others, learned how to say "no," eliminated the dis-eases that ruled my life, and put my work life in proper perspective.  I also re-established a relationship with my father after 18 years of silence between us.  In short, my gray world turned to color by making one decision to have a better life -- a life I deserved.  Now, I feel grateful for everything that has happened and will happen in my life.

    People often asked me what I did to make such a radical change and what I was doing that gave me my new "glow."  Some even said it appeared I had reinvented myself.  It was then that I realized that my story is not unique -- many women suffer from the same neglect that can only happen when she takes care of everyone and everything but herself. 

    The i-love-me collection is dedicated to all women who need a reminder or want to be inspired by the message that she is a woman before she is a wife, sister, daughter, mother, friend, or co-worker.  It is an invitation to pursue a life of self-love.  I now have a website that features the successful journeys of other women and seeks to become a place where women can feel supported when they otherwise feel like a team of one. 

    BE loving, happy, yourself, free.

    Host: What does it means to not sweat the small stuff ?

    Ria Moore Benedict: Well it means just that. I mean pretty much every thing is small when you think about it. The question that I always asked myself, I ask other people when an issue arises is what if someone is going to get hurt, if the answer is no, then it really is something small that doesn t have any meaning or hold on your life, then you shouldn t allow it to have any meaning or hold on your life. There are two techniques that I use that you can incorporate in to your life that are helpful for this. The first one is doing some deep breathing exercises so, as soon as you feel your self starting to become anxious or a reason for angry with someone, take a few moments, close your eyes and just take a few deep breaths and you will find that you will feel a little bit more calm about the situation and then figure out what you can do to address the situation in a more positive manner.

    The second thing that can you do, when it s really, really tough and really don t like that person which can happens sometimes, is you can close your eyes, take your right hand, rub your stomach and say I Love You while you are picturing that person in your mind. You may not feel like you really love that person at the moment but it will help you to feel better about it and you are doing really something good for you.