What does it mean to transform sex into lovemaking?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Relationship expert Chris Wright explains what it means to transform sex into lovemaking.

    Chris Wright

    Chris Wright is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist.  He sees clients in the Washington, D.C. area and has telephone clients from all over the world.  He also has over 35 years of experience as a trainer and workshop leader in human and organizational development across the U.S. and Canada.   Chris was founder and director of the Human Relations Institute in Houston, Texas.  He was also the Director of PAIRS International -- training psychologists, psychiatrists and therapists in couple’s skills programs.     As an innovator in the field, he has developed a unique blend of tools that increase the effectiveness in relationships -- for couples and in the workplace.  He has Masters Degrees from the University of Arizona and Antioch University in Los Angeles.

    Host: What does it mean to transform sex into lovemaking?

    Speaker: Most people have a sense of a difference between sex and lovemaking and so we are going to shift gears here I mean it is appropriate to end this series this video series on how to have a successful couples relationship and that with making love because this is one of the most important thing, a couple can learn in their relationship, how to transform sex into pure lovemaking together?

    Many couples remember a time when they fell like they really were making love it was not about sex, it was much more than that it was a sense of opening up their heart and the love dominated the whole experience, so it was not really focus so much on sex together. There is something incredibly magical about pure love making when you with someone who you really surrender your heart you open up to and unleash its powerful accelerating intimate love energies together and they direct the whole experience, it is one of the most fulfilling experience that a couple can have, something that connects them to themselves and connect themselves to their partner, it is like a complete, their souls together.

    Some couples even take it further with full awareness, they allow themselves to fully experience each moment by moment where they actually merge into the experience so fully that any sense of separation dissolve and they feel the sense of oneness not only with themselves but with their partner and it feels more like a spiritual experience and that makes sense, because most of the major religious traditions of the world and spiritual traditions of the world teach that sex is inherently a spiritual experience, but one that requires the bond of love to generate.

    Sex alone just sex won t do that, it does not touch your soul but most know people that, most people know how they experiences where they had sex and it wasn t about love, they know there is a difference it was just sex.