What if the bridal couple requests money instead of gifts?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Etiquette Expert Nancy Mitchell discusses what to do if the Bridal couple request money instead of a gift.

    Nancy Mitchell

    Nancy R. Mitchell is an established protocol and etiquette consultant and advisor with more than 30 years of experience in the field. Currently, she is an adjunct faculty member at George Washington University, where she developed and teaches protocol courses to Event Management Certificate Program students in the School of Business and Public Management, and at Stratford University, Falls Church, VA. She serves also as protocol and special events consultant to the Library of Congress, the world’s largest library and cultural center. For 23 years, Mitchell was Director of Special Events and Public Programs at the Library of Congress where she and her staff were responsible for planning and managing over 400 events each year. She coordinated the institution’s major special events, visits of heads of state and other foreign dignitaries, fundraising galas, conferences and meetings. As the Library’s chief protocol advisor, she served as liaison to the White House, U.S Department of State, the Congress, the Supreme Court and other government agencies, foreign embassies, academia and corporations. Mitchell owns The Etiquette Advocate, Inc., a firm providing etiquette and protocol training to corporations, universities, embassies, government agencies, non-profit organizations and individuals. She is the etiquette consultant to Engaged! magazine, has been featured on Good Morning America, Fox 5 News, WTOP Radio and National Public Radio, and is quoted on matters of etiquette and protocol by the New York Times, Washington Business Journal, and the Washington Post. She is a co-owner of the firm, Protocol Partners-Washington Center for Protocol, Inc., and is a member of the Protocol and Diplomacy International Protocol Officers Association and the Women Business Owners of Montgomery Country (MD).

    Host: What if the Bridal couple request money instead of a gift?

    Nancy Mitchell: It's a big mistake I would like to counsel account the people to never ever put that request on either Shower invitation or Wedding invitation or to include it when either of those pieces is mailed. If there are some extenuating circumstances where the couple are may be setting up their home immediately they may be moving across countries several times before they have a permanent home and perhaps they don t want to both loaded gifts that they are going to pack up and store somewhere -- Wow! All this is happening.

    If they have determined that either gifts cards or money or more practical gifts it must be never put in writing. It can be information that you shared through the party line if you will. The families knows it, the wedding party knows it so, that when they noticed the couple hasn t register the gift somewhere they will go to one of these sources and they will say could you give me some gift ideas then those people who have been include on the party line can explain why gifts are at this time are impractical. If you would like to give them something on their wedding thing about a gift card or think about something they can put into their account for when they will be furnishing their home later on.