What is the eighth key value for compatibility?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Relationship expert Gloria MacDonald discusses the eighth key value for compatibility in a relationship – arts and beauty.

    Gloria MacDonald

    Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

    Host: What is the eighth key value for compatibility?

    Gloria MacDonald: The eighth value is what we call Arts and Beauty. So for example, if you are high on these arts and beauty, you would be someone who gets a real sense of fulfillment out of seeing a gorgeous sunset or spectacular mountains or you would love to spend time at an Art Gallery, really taking in and appreciating the beauty and the grandeur and the splendor of a masterpiece. You could spend a long time in front of one painting, studying it and appreciating it and getting the full essence of it or maybe you are someone who is passionate about Opera or Symphony and you find that the beauty of music just moves you and it is something thats deep within you.

    If you are low on arts and beauty, you just really can't relate to that spending half and hour in front of a masterpiece in a museum is going to be about the most boring thing you could possibly imagine. Frankly, a symphony just doesnt do it for you. Of course, with all these things, there are of varying scales. It is not that you only have the person who is moved to tears by a beautiful piece of music and the other person doesnt care at all.

    You can clearly have someone who is in the middle on this and appreciates and enjoys symphony and is going to go maybe a couple of times a year, but they dont necessarily have seasons tickets or maybe someone does have seasons tickets to symphony because they enjoy that, but they are still not necessarily high on arts and beauty in everything in their life. So a person who loves the arts finds great joy and fulfillment out of seeing the beauty in nature and having a beautiful surrounding in their home and really caring about the flow of color and form and design. That person, those are values, those things are important to them. They truly value them as something thats meaningful in their life. The person who is low on arts and beauty just doesnt get that, this is meaningful in a deep way. So they truly can't relate to one another. So, it does again create friction if one partner truly can not understand the other partner and the person who is really, really high on this trait can't understand how someone isnt moved by a beautiful piece of music or a stunning piece of artwork or just the flow of design and form and color. They dont get it, they dont get how someone, what they dont have any feeling, they can't feel this? Again, it is about understanding and valuing our partner and trying to see the other persons perspective, but its hard because we can't ever walk in another persons shoes. So again, just understand where you are on this trait and then be aware of that and try to look for someone who shares your values around this.