What is the eleventh key value for compatibility?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Relationship expert Gloria MacDonald discusses the eleventh key value for compatibility in a relationship – money matters.

    Gloria MacDonald

    Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

    Host: What is the eleventh key value for compatibility?

    Gloria MacDonald: The eleventh one is a big one, we call it Money Matters and it's all around how you view money. So for example, are you a big spender? If you are high on money matters then you are a big spender and you really enjoy the finer things in life and you think it is worthwhile spending money on a luxury hotel on when you are on vacation or it is worthwhile spending money on a really fine bottle of wine or an excellent restaurant or a luxury car. Having a larger home is really important to you because you value those things. The person who is what we call low on money matters would be a big saver, not a spender and they would feel like that was being frivolous and irresponsible to be outspending your money on a luxury five star hotel, when a three star hotel is perfectly fine. After all, all you are doing is sleeping in a bed. What's important is that you have a bed to sleep on, so you will be well rested. It doesn't matter that you have the fancy sheets and the fancy towels and the extra bars of soap and all those things in the room. This is a potential huge area of friction in relationships. As we all know when there are stresses around money in a relationship, it's really a big cause of break up in relationships. So, this is critical that you understand where your partner is on the whole area of money matters. The person who is low on money matters would be the person who feels like, you absolutely, positively have to have a plan for retirement in the future. It would be absolutely silly, irresponsible and ridiculous for you not to be saving now, so that you can retire. The person who is high on money matters would just feel like, Well, you know what, you can't take it with you so, you might as well spend it now. What's the point in leaving millions and millions of dollars in the bank for your kids or some charity organization when life is here to be lived, you only go around once, so you might as well live it with all the gusto? Two very, very different view points on life. Again, who's to say that one is right and one is wrong? They are just different but be very careful around this when you are looking at a potential relationship. Understand where you are on this, understand what's really going to bother you and end up hurting you. It's amazing these things actually cause hurt because the person who is low on money matters, who is the saver, if they are in a relationship with a big spender, will feel hurt because they will feel like their partner doesn't love them enough to care about the future together, whereas the partner who is high on money matters would feel like the other person doesn't love them enough to use this hard earned money to enjoy life. We are here to enjoy life together. We have created this relationship so we can be together and enjoy things together. So it's amazing the amount of hurt that can come around this whole area of spenders versus savers and how you are spending your money, how you are saving your money and it's truly a value what you value about life and what's important to you.