Gloria MacDonaldGloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”
Host: What is the fifth deadly dating sin for men? Gloria MacDonald: The fifth sin is the sin of being cheap; if the guy doesn't pay for your coffee or drinks, forget it he is cheap run as fast as you can. Again remember guys, this goes back to those thousands of years of evolutionary psychology. It's partly conscious on a woman's part, but it's also the really deep underline things on this are subconscious and if you don't pay for her coffee or drink and if you don't pay for that first big dinner, that's the first real date, forget it for most women because again subconsciously they don't realize it but they want to make sure this man can provide for them. Especially for women who wants to have kids, there will be some time where she won't be able to be working fulltime even if it's a short amount of time six weeks or so, but subconsciously women want to know that this guy has some ability to be able to provide for her and her family.
Again even if the woman is not going to be having children, even if the woman is in her fifties and sixties, there is still the subconscious thing that we can't get rid off. So, if you appear to be cheap to the women, if you can't even afford that two dollar drink then forget it, you are toast. So, again it's about, how much do you want to impress the woman that you are the type of man that she wants to have a relationship with?
Now, we are not expecting you to pay for everything throughout the entire relationship, but it's really those first two or three times that you are meeting with the women, after that its right that today -- that really things are kind of split evenly. The other thing that women don't like is, if you start taking a bill and saying splitting it fifty fifty, really what's the most comfortable one, most people do when you are starting to actually date and getting into relationship is you pay for one time and maybe the women pays for another thing. So, it kind of works out evenly, if you start to penny pinching and get down to splitting a bill into $12.
97 a piece, that does not impress a women at all either. So, you shouldn't have to pay for the entire relationship and all of the dating. So, it's just those first, two or three dates when you want to impress and then after that it's kind of a give and take, where it's one time you pay another time she would pay, but again it's about, how much you want to impress that women those first couple of times out.