What is the fifth key value for compatibility?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Relationship expert Gloria MacDonald discusses the fifth key value for compatibility in a relationship – optimism.

    Gloria MacDonald

    Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

    Host: What is the fifth key value for compatibility?

    Gloria MacDonald: The fifth key value is Optimism. So, obviously there are people in this world who are very positive and upbeat and to taking it to, what some might consider to be the extreme. They see the world through rose-colored glasses. Again, So you get stuck in traffic, what's the big deal? Maybe we will be five, ten minutes late, but no one is going to die. It is just bumper to bumper traffic and it is not the end of the world. The person who would be what we call lower on the end of optimism or someone who is very realistic and pragmatic, might be very frustrated by the fact that you are stuck in a traffic jam and they are like, Oh gosh! We are never going to get there on time. This is, We should have left earlier. The person who is optimistic is going to be, Dont worry about it, it doesnt matter. Living life together with two opposites on that will be huge, because literally, the way we approach everything in our lives, whether you are optimist, whether you are an optimist and see the world as, Everything is okay. Dont worry, it will all work out, or if you are more of a realist, pragmatist and things frustrate you and you do get concerned and upset by these things, it is going to cause you is what, huge friction in a relationship. In fact, some psychologists say that this trait of optimism second to a persons libido level is the single, a second most important traits in couple in terms of forming intimacy. So, if one person is viewing the world always through rose-colored glasses and isnt life wonderful and dont worry about the challenges, everything will work out okay. So we have a little financial challenge, it is okay. Things will work out okay versus the partner who is like, Oh my gosh, but we are running out of money. This is horrible, we really have to work. We have to be, this is very concerning, and they worry, worry, worry.

    That actually, believe it or not, has a huge impact on the intimacy of the relationship because it literally has to do with everything we do in life and how we view the entire world and everything in our lives.