What is the first deadly dating sin for women?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Gloria MacDonald shares the first deadly dating sin for women.

    Gloria MacDonald

    Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

    What is the first deadly dating sin for women?

    Sin number one is the sin of indecision and wimpyness. If a man cannot decide what restaurant he is going to take us to, forget it, he is a loser, he is toast. Now, the interesting thing about this is, if we could be a little more open minded on this and understand where the man is coming from. We have spoken to so many men who feel like they are trying to do a favor for the women by allowing her to choose where she wants to go especially if this is a first meeting and a blind date where you have not met this person before; lots of men are very aware that women are concerned for their personal safety and they want the women to be comfortableAnd so they are leaving it open to the women for her to decide where she would like to go, so it is a place that she is familiar with, it is a public place where she is going to feel comfortable. The other thing we have heard men say is when it is kind of that first big date when you are going out to dinner, the man would say, well I thought it would be nice if I allowed her to choose the restaurant so we could go to her favorite restaurant and besides I do not know what kind of food she likes. So this way she can choose what kind of food she likes.

    Unfortunately, we as women think, loser, cannot even make a decision about what kind of restaurant he wants to go to, but if you can remain a little more open minded and understand why a man might be doing that it is not that he cannot make a decision, it is not that he is a loser, it is not that he is absolute wimp and cannot even come up with a plan. He is probably trying to be considerate of you, your feelings, and what type of environment you want to be in and what kind of food you like.

    So, work with him on it, give him a chance, we had a client we are working with a woman. Let us call her Donna, 43 years old, and we introduced her to a man and the man called her and they were setting up a time where they will get together to meet for the first time, and he suggested certain times in a day but he did not have any suggestion of a place where Donna was really upset and ticked off and told him to call her back after he thought of a place where they might be able to meet.

    So, the poor guy hung up the phone and thought okay and he called her back several hours later and suggested that they meet in a very nice bar, in a very nice hotel, in a major down town area. Wow Donna was even more offended and ticked off because she does not meet men in hotels. She had this thing going on that the guy was going to try to get her upstairs to a room and she was not going to their.

    So, this poor guy was really doing his best to try to please her and no matter what he did, he was damned if he did and damned if he did not. So, and this a really great, very successful, very good looking, wonderful, warm, genuine, sincere, professional guy who Donna never even met because she was so ticked off about him not having a place planned and then when he planned the place, she did not like the place.

    So, if we could just be a little more flexible, this is all about us in proving our chances of finding a really fantastic guy. So, be open-minded and give the guy a break if he does not have the perfect place already planned out.