What is the ninth commandment of goal setting?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Goals expert Gary Ryan Blair discusses the importance of rewarding yourself for making positive steps toward your goal.

    Gary Ryan Blair

    Gary is the President of The GoalsGuy Learning Systems, a highly focused training organization whose mission is to help their clients build and sustain superior performance. They accomplish this objective by helping their clients increase their sense of direction, confidence, and capability in all areas of their personal and professional life.

    Gary believes passionately in the enormous, untapped potential that resides within each person and is committed to providing individuals and corporations with tools of knowledge and skill they can use to unlock this potential. He has developed an entire library of world-class training programs, books and learning resources like the Personal Strategic Plan that are designed to make the heart sing, the mind expand and the spirit soar!

    To support his belief in the importance of goal setting and focus, Gary has established and sponsored two nationally recognized events: Youth Goals Education Week, a unique opportunity for kids and teens to learn about goal setting and its influence on their future, and New Year's Resolutions Week, an insightful series of activities designed to encourage people to set goals for their lives.

    Gary believes that life will not go according to plan, if you do not have a plan. He shares this belief and his unique strategies with school systems and companies around the world such as IBM, NASA, General Electric, Federal Express, Ford and many others.

    In addition to The GoalsGuy, Gary has created the wildly successful got goals?® campaign. It's mission is to inspire people to Be More, Do More and to ultimately Have More from life.

    His personal philosophy can be summarized into two words: Everything Counts!™ He believes in sweating the small stuff, and teaches that every action, word and thought either moves you toward or away from your goals, mission and ultimate legacy; that every moment offers an opportunity for advancement or retreat.

    When Gary speaks and writes, he does so from the heart, with warmth and humor. His unique gift is to speak to an audience and communicate with the heart of each person as if they were alone having an important, intimate conversation. A polished storyteller, he has a way of making the seemingly complex, easy to understand.

    Gary, his wife Erika, son Ryan, and daughter Libby live in Tampa, Florida with their two wonder-dogs Beefcake and Pork chop.

    Host: What is the ninth commandment of goal setting?

    Gary Ryan Blair: The ninth commandment is thou shall reward yourself and rewards are just, just a powerful instrument and often they are under utilized or sometimes not utilized at all, but we see rewards for a three legged race. Heck, there is a show on TV now, it talks about the biggest loser and what you find is you have got some people really competing aggressively. Whether it's for a car, whether it's for a phone call home or a bunch of different stuff. It provides an additional incentive to stay focused and stay motivated and continues to drive you. So, it's another reason, why number one.

    Number two is, it has to be earned. You can't just go down to the store and buy one of those things. You have to earn it and there is a wonderful feeling that comes along with that, but the key and I emphasize the key is that a reward is a symbol. It's a symbol of intrinsic values. The intrinsic values, whether you take an Oscar, an ME, a championship ring or that ribbon for a three legged race, or even for a best cattle call at a -- I don't know, at a turkey contest or something like that, it doesn't really matter, what you will realize is that in order to achieve any of those, you have got to be focused, you have got to be decisive, you have probably going to have to have a team, you are going to overcome failure and difficulty that you are going to have to enforce commitment, that you are going to have to honor your values, is a whole series of intrinsic values that's need to be demonstrated, for the entire world to see in order for you to enjoy that reward.

    So, the quick summary of reward is an extrinsic reminder of intrinsic values and that's crucial.