Gloria MacDonaldGloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”
Host: What is the seventh deadly dating sin for men?
Gloria MacDonald: The final deadly dating sin is the sin of lack of perseverance, if the man doesn't jump through hoops for the woman, pursue her to the death, then forget it he is not deserving of her. Unfortunately women still want to be chased, they want to have the man pursue them again, it's just our models and at subconscious at some level and it just shows that the man is going to go to the n-th degree to protect her and provide for her. So obviously things have changed but it's hard for guys and I recognize this, but still women are wanting you to take the initiative.
So, after maybe you meet that first time, if it was a blind date and you have met for coffee or drinks or something, it's highly unlikely that the woman is going to call you and ask you out a second time, highly, highly, unlikely. Women still want you to take the initiative to call them and if you don't, and if you don't call soon, if you don't call within two or three days there interest starts going further and further and further down because subconsciously you are losing some of that ability to protect and provide for them. So, you are going to have to stick your necks out on the line, a little bit more, if you really want to be successful and you really want to find this woman and you are going to have to take the initiative initially to ask her out a second time, ask her out a third time and then after the third time, things should start working out and they should have just a natural flow. But there will be times when you are going to have to do maybe a little more pursuing than you would like to do. Guys trust me, if you have met a woman for the first time and if she is interested in you, even though you might not have a clue from what she said or did and that's possible that she is extremely interested in you and you don't have a clue because don't forget, she is nervous too, and she is not sure of your interest in her. Everybody is afraid of being rejected, so everybody's is going into say, I wonder if he is interested in me, oh I can't tell if she is interested in me and so there is this whole little thing going back and forth and the woman might think you are the greatest thing that she has ever met and you might not have a clue, but if she is interested in you, trust me, she has gone home, she has called four or five of her girl friends she said, Oh gosh I really liked him, Oh I thought he was so great.
Now, he said this wau, do you think he will call me? Maybe I'll get an email from him tomorrow, do you think I will because you know when we were chatting, he said this and this and this, and so I think he might be interested in me, but I'm not sure, and trust me she is dying to hear from you. So, there is no such thing as calling too soon, and you know what even she is not sure a 100% if she is interested in you, if you call or email her the next day, you will all of a sudden go up a notch or two in her books and you know what if for any reason she wasn't interested in you, that's okay good for you that you gave her a try and the worse thing that's going to happen is she is going to flattered that you at least thought she was interesting and then you can move on and find just the right woman for you, go for it guys.