What is the tenth commandment of goal setting?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Goals expert Gary Ryan Blair discusses the importance of personal integrity when trying to achieve a goal.

    Gary Ryan Blair

    Gary is the President of The GoalsGuy Learning Systems, a highly focused training organization whose mission is to help their clients build and sustain superior performance. They accomplish this objective by helping their clients increase their sense of direction, confidence, and capability in all areas of their personal and professional life.

    Gary believes passionately in the enormous, untapped potential that resides within each person and is committed to providing individuals and corporations with tools of knowledge and skill they can use to unlock this potential. He has developed an entire library of world-class training programs, books and learning resources like the Personal Strategic Plan that are designed to make the heart sing, the mind expand and the spirit soar!

    To support his belief in the importance of goal setting and focus, Gary has established and sponsored two nationally recognized events: Youth Goals Education Week, a unique opportunity for kids and teens to learn about goal setting and its influence on their future, and New Year's Resolutions Week, an insightful series of activities designed to encourage people to set goals for their lives.

    Gary believes that life will not go according to plan, if you do not have a plan. He shares this belief and his unique strategies with school systems and companies around the world such as IBM, NASA, General Electric, Federal Express, Ford and many others.

    In addition to The GoalsGuy, Gary has created the wildly successful got goals?® campaign. It's mission is to inspire people to Be More, Do More and to ultimately Have More from life.

    His personal philosophy can be summarized into two words: Everything Counts!™ He believes in sweating the small stuff, and teaches that every action, word and thought either moves you toward or away from your goals, mission and ultimate legacy; that every moment offers an opportunity for advancement or retreat.

    When Gary speaks and writes, he does so from the heart, with warmth and humor. His unique gift is to speak to an audience and communicate with the heart of each person as if they were alone having an important, intimate conversation. A polished storyteller, he has a way of making the seemingly complex, easy to understand.

    Gary, his wife Erika, son Ryan, and daughter Libby live in Tampa, Florida with their two wonder-dogs Beefcake and Pork chop.

    Host: What is the tenth commandment of goal setting?

    Gary Ryan Blair: The tenth commandment is thou shall enforce personal integrity. In personal integrity, the best way to look at this is, this is honoring your commitments. I have a three step philosophy that I teach to everybody. But before, actually I give you that, I just want to explain this.

    Whether it's in sports or any type of sports that I have played in my entire life, whether its football, baseball, basketball, golf.

    , the most important part are your kick, your punch, your swing, your throw. It's not where you start, it's where you finish. It's your follow through and unfortunately that's where the vast majority people are weak.

    They have good intentions, they have got a lot of lofty goals and ambitions. Got a lot of ideas that they want to implement, but unfortunately, they are very indiscipline when it comes to follow through. The idea of personal integrity when I say there are three steps to it, very simple as this. If you make a commitment, you are honored, if you make a promise, you keep it and if you set a goal, achieve it.

    If you look at that, break it down and ask yourself, what's the point in making a commitment, if you don't honor it. You bring shame to yourself and you embarrass yourself in front of other people, especially when you made that commitment publicly.

    When you make a promise to yourself or other people and unfortunately the promise that we break the most are the ones that we break to ourselves and we think, no one is going to know or no one will be aware of it, but deep down, in that truth center, we know that we have shamed ourselves.

    So, its' important that we have a strong constitution, that if we make commitments, they are honored, if we make promises, we keep them and if we set goals, we achieve them and that really, if you think about it. If you just kept two components or two of these commandments.

    You really just need the first and the last one. You need to be decisive, you need to decide with clarity, exactly what it is that you want. With complete certainty and on the other side of the coin, you have got to make sure that you honor that decision. That is probably the most important take away from this whole process.