Julie GreenleeJulie Greenlee, Certified Love & Logic Instructor. Julie is currently Program Director at For Children’s Sake Emergency Diagnostic Center, a child placing agency specializing in therapeutic foster care, adoption, and residential treatment. There she works with the most defiant children. She has received trainings on Childhood Differential Diagnoses, Reactive Attachment Disorder, Autism and Asbergers, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Children and Families with HIV/AIDS, and has become a certified facilitator of Love and Logic which is the philosophy and core that For Children's Sake uses to teach both parents, staff, and community members, on appropriate and effective ways to parent and discipline a normal to extremely defiant child.
What parts of Love and Logic offer disciplinary techniques?
Julie Greenlee: The tools and techniques that Love and Logic offers couples with how to discipline kids. In previous questions of this segment, where I have talked about how to share control by giving kids choices.
We talked about those three rules and making sure that we limit them to two, making sure that we choose for the child if they choose to go brain-dead on us and also to give a time on it, on how long we give them to make those choices. All the choices that we give kids are going to leave us deliriously happy.
Another tool that we use is in enforceable statements, is changing our no s in to yes s. Controlling what we do as parents instead of being under the disillusionment that we can control what that kid is going to do.
Finally, we use empathy all the time. We want to make sure that we remain the good guy and that he kids choices become the bad guy. We want to make sure that we can identify natural consequences, that were not punitive, that we don t deliver punishments. By doing those things those effective, simplistic tools, we have delivered discipline to our difficult kids and that s the kind of discipline that we want our kids to learn.