When should I step in, or tell a teacher?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Dr. Ted Feinberg of the National Association of School Psychologists gives advice on when a parent should intervene or contact a teacher about a bullying problem.

    Ted Feinberg

    Dr. Feinberg has over 30 years of broad-based human services experience in the mental health field. He has extensive background in consultation and counseling with children, adolescents, adults and families. He has worked in both the public and private sectors. In August 2000, Dr. Feinberg assumed his current position as Assistant Executive Director for Professional Development for the National Association of School Psychologists. His new responsibilities include program development, oversight of advocacy, government and public relations, public policy initiatives, interagency networking as well as professional standards and ethics. Dr. Feinberg has also co-authored two chapters for a Best Practices book on crisis intervention in the schools, book chapters and numerous articles for the NASP Communiqué. Dr. Feinberg was one of the six members of the core workgroup who developed the nationally recognized PREPaRE crisis prevention and intervention training curriculum. Dr. Feinberg has been the Director of Albany Counseling and Crisis Intervention Services and the Senior School Psychologist for the North Colonie Schools near Albany, N.Y. He has been a member of the Graduate School faculties at Russell Sage College, University of New York at Albany, the University of Maryland and George Mason University. Dr. Feinberg completed his doctoral and postdoctoral training at the University of New York at Albany. In October 1995, the New York State Association of School Psychologists selected Dr. Feinberg as Practicioner of the Year. Dr. Feinberg completed his second trip to Panama where he assisted the United States Department of Defense with their reduction in force efforts. He was one of the founding members and Chairman for the NASP National Emergency Assistance team and has volunteered his time to do crisis intervention training and disaster mental health work for the American Red Cross and the National Organization for Victim Assistance. Dr. Feinberg was the team leader for NEAT/NOVA in Spotsylvania, Virginia where three adolescent girls from the community were abducted, molested and murdered. In April 1999, he was invited to Littleton, Colorado after the worst school shooting tragedy in US history to consult with school and community members impacted by the horrific event. Dr. Feinberg was the keynote speaker for the New York State Governors’ Conference on the Prevention of School Violence on March 5, 1999. He was also appointed to then Governor Pataki’s New York State Blue Ribbon Task Force on School Violence.

    Speaker: When should I step in, or tell a teacher?

    Dr. Ted Feinberg: As soon as its reasonably clear that your child is being bullied, whether through observation, as I mentioned before injuries, they are coming home without the money that you gave them for lunch and they clearly have not had lunch or they are being intimidated on the bus or at the bus stop or in the cafeteria or the locker room, thats an immediate sign that you should step in and find out, one what is going on? Who the perpetrator is? And more importantly, what it is that can be done to make this behavior stop?

    You keep in mind that there are the traditional types of bullying that we all are familiar where the children are physically manhandled or abused. Then, there are situations where kids are being abused via the internet and what we call, Cyber Bullying. So, there is variety of bullying activities that can take place and in any situation, where its occurring, it needs to be stopped as soon as its noticed.