I left my job as a high profile government official and attorney to pursue my passion -- establishing I-LOVE-ME, LLC and the i-love-me collection. This business was created from my own journey to love myself after a life of being a perfectionist, overworking, major health issues, a 6-year unfulfilling marriage (and subsequent divorce), and doing what everyone else wanted me to do and be. When I started to put ME first, everything in my life changed: I lost 50 pounds, developed good boundaries with others, learned how to say "no," eliminated the dis-eases that ruled my life, and put my work life in proper perspective. I also re-established a relationship with my father after 18 years of silence between us. In short, my gray world turned to color by making one decision to have a better life -- a life I deserved. Now, I feel grateful for everything that has happened and will happen in my life.
People often asked me what I did to make such a radical change and what I was doing that gave me my new "glow." Some even said it appeared I had reinvented myself. It was then that I realized that my story is not unique -- many women suffer from the same neglect that can only happen when she takes care of everyone and everything but herself.
The i-love-me collection is dedicated to all women who need a reminder or want to be inspired by the message that she is a woman before she is a wife, sister, daughter, mother, friend, or co-worker. It is an invitation to pursue a life of self-love. I now have a website that features the successful journeys of other women and seeks to become a place where women can feel supported when they otherwise feel like a team of one.
BE loving, happy, yourself, free.
Host: Why is it important to know and like who I am?
Ria Moore Benedict: It is important to know and like who you are, because you are trying to achieve the greatest life that you can have for your self and frankly the way you treat yourself is the way other people are going to treat you. You teach people how to treat you by the way that you take care of yourself. So, the first thing you should do is know who you are, you are never going to master that buts it's going to be a really fun process trying. You are going to be a constantly developing person so, have the courage to challenge yourself constantly. How you know if you are not in that mood or you are going to be a really indecisive, you are going to be more of a fouler, you are not really going to understand what your likes and dislikes are, so you really should take some time and figure out what it is that you do like and it's a process that you might have to do several times in your life because as I said, you are going to constantly grow and change and things that work for you today, may not work for you in five years from now.
Some of the other techniques that you can do to really love yourself and to love that person is to say positive affirmations to yourself, because you have to be able to love yourself before anyone else can love you. So, one of the thing you can do, is to look at yourself in the mirror and say, I Love You several times. It seems like a really simple thing but it s actually kind of hard and a funny thing to do, when you are standing and looking at yourself and you are by yourself in the room, just talking to you in the mirror but it's a really great thing to do for your positive self image.