Why is it important to learn to forgive others?

    Published: 06-16-2009
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    Motivational speaker Ria Benedict discusses why it’s important to forgive others.

    Ria Benedict

    I left my job as a high profile government official and attorney to pursue my passion -- establishing I-LOVE-ME, LLC and the i-love-me collection.  This business was created from my own journey to love myself after a life of being a perfectionist, overworking, major health issues, a 6-year unfulfilling marriage (and subsequent divorce), and doing what everyone else wanted me to do and be.  When I started to put ME first, everything in my life changed:  I lost 50 pounds, developed good boundaries with others, learned how to say "no," eliminated the dis-eases that ruled my life, and put my work life in proper perspective.  I also re-established a relationship with my father after 18 years of silence between us.  In short, my gray world turned to color by making one decision to have a better life -- a life I deserved.  Now, I feel grateful for everything that has happened and will happen in my life.

    People often asked me what I did to make such a radical change and what I was doing that gave me my new "glow."  Some even said it appeared I had reinvented myself.  It was then that I realized that my story is not unique -- many women suffer from the same neglect that can only happen when she takes care of everyone and everything but herself. 

    The i-love-me collection is dedicated to all women who need a reminder or want to be inspired by the message that she is a woman before she is a wife, sister, daughter, mother, friend, or co-worker.  It is an invitation to pursue a life of self-love.  I now have a website that features the successful journeys of other women and seeks to become a place where women can feel supported when they otherwise feel like a team of one. 

    BE loving, happy, yourself, free.

    Host: Why it is important to learn to forgive others?

    Ria Moore Benedict: Well, learn to forgive others, is showing true unconditional love for yourself and for others and quite frankly when you have a resentment or frustration or anger towards someone else you are only hurting you.

    Only person who feels that is you. One of the things that I learned in my personal development is that whenever people do something to you, they are not really doing it to you, it's about where they are in their personal development. When you are in your personal development shows in you how you react to it. So, you want to able to react with love and with kindness towards someone else. It just accepts that that s where they maybe but that does not mean that it has to impact my life in a negative way.

    So, one of the things that you can do to help you with forgiving others, sometimes it can be difficult with certain people especially, and you know who those people are in your life. So, one of things you can do is really just focus on all the good things about that person. Now, with somebody that you just really don t know that well, that exercise that we talked about earlier, where you take your hand and you rub your stomach in a clock wise direction and say, I Love You while you are picturing that person works really great this as well.